How do you make a strong women like Chrissie Hynde cry?
I love the image, not because she is crying, but because she reminds me so much of my Marie. I only ever made Marie cry once. It was a couple of weeks after we got back together again, and I can’t honestly remember the circumstances… but I do remember her look, it was just how Chrissie looks in this painting.
I had just come out of a thirty year slanging match with my ex-wife, so I was pretty good at offensive argument, I never won any of them but I’d learnt how to be vitriolic and hurtful. As soon as I saw this look in My Marie, I had an epiphany, I thought I’m not going to do this any more, been there, got the t-shirt. So, simply, I stopped. And we never had another argument. We had one fall out, which was over a blog which she misconstrued as me flirting, which I wasn’t doing but I could see why she thought that. She spent one day sleeping at work, she worked in a hotel… And we were both so miserable being apart, we made up the next day.
There is an argument going on in England, concerning a Brexit candidate, and a Labour M.P. Jess Philips. He had said, supposedly, that no-one would even want to rape her because she was a fucking bitch. I like Jess Philips as a person, but that is beside the point, What kind of political debate are we allowing if raping a woman is a yardstick by which we measure their desirability? I can categorically say, that I have never wanted to rape anyone, women, men, child or animal, not ever, not even in fantasy and as a corollary to that, I find any man or woman who think that rape is in any way amusing should seek medical help!
It is not a subject that I find in anyway amusing… I have sat on two juries on two different child rape cases,( I know, a third time I was a juror on a manslaughter case, what are the chances), and each time, the jury came to the wrong decision, the first girl was a statutory rape, so they decided that she had it coming to her… the second on a boy was a fantasy concocted by a peeved mother, I cannot go into details because it would be sub judiciary, but attitudes to girls highlighted in these cases make me despair of our society.
Rape or violence to anyone is something which should not and cannot be tolerated in a civilised community.
I have often wondered what it would have been like to live in the 1930’s, I never anticipated I would be living through it in the 21st century. Please remember, bad things can only happen if good people do nothing.
So, Please good people, do something to stop this nihilistic slide back to a fascist future.