STRONG WOMEN

chrissie cries

How do you make a strong women like Chrissie Hynde cry?

I love the image, not because she is crying, but because she reminds me so much of my Marie. I only ever made Marie cry once. It was a couple of weeks after we got back together again, and I can’t honestly remember the circumstances… but I do remember her look, it was just how Chrissie looks in this painting.

I had just come out of a thirty year slanging match with my ex-wife, so I was pretty good at offensive argument, I never won any of them but I’d learnt how to be vitriolic and hurtful. As soon as I saw this look in My Marie, I had an epiphany, I thought I’m not going to do this any more, been there, got the t-shirt. So, simply, I stopped. And we never had another argument. We had one fall out, which was over a blog which she misconstrued as me flirting, which I wasn’t doing but I could see why she thought that. She spent one day sleeping at work, she worked in a hotel… And we were both so miserable being apart, we made up the next day.

There is an argument going on in England, concerning a Brexit candidate, and a Labour M.P. Jess Philips. He had said, supposedly, that no-one would even want to rape her because she was a fucking bitch. I like Jess Philips as a person, but that is beside the point, What kind of political debate are we allowing if raping a woman is a yardstick by which we measure their desirability? I can categorically say, that I have never wanted to rape anyone, women, men, child or animal, not ever, not even in fantasy and as a corollary to that, I find any man or woman who think that rape is in any way amusing should seek medical help!

It is not a subject that I find in anyway amusing… I have sat on two juries on two different child rape cases,( I know, a third time I was a juror on a manslaughter case, what are the chances), and each time, the jury came to the wrong decision, the first girl was a statutory rape, so they decided that she had it coming to her… the second on a boy was a fantasy concocted by a peeved mother, I cannot go into details because it would be sub judiciary, but attitudes to girls highlighted in these cases make me despair of our society.

Rape or violence to anyone is something which should not and cannot be tolerated in a civilised community.

I have often wondered what it would have been like to live in the 1930’s, I never anticipated I would be living through it in the 21st century. Please remember, bad things can only happen if good people do nothing.

So, Please good people, do something to stop this nihilistic slide back to a fascist future.

DALE ‘M’

 

A VOYAGE AROUND MY HOME

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THIS IS MY ROOM

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FROM ANOTHER ANGLE

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AND A THIRD WITH THE ADDED BONUS OF ELLIE!

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AND MY BOOKCASE COMPLETES MY ROOM

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THE STAIRCASE AT THE TOP OF THE STAIRS

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AND THE DIZZY HEIGHTS HALF WAY DOWN, WITH ELLIE TRYING TO TRIP ME AS PER…

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THE HALL AND DOWNSTAIRS BATHROOM… MUM’S DISPLAY CASE WITH STUFF IN IT.

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THE LOUNGE WITH MOTHER LOUNGING

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POPPY LOUNGING WITH A POUTY FACE… SHE THINKS I’M ABOUT TO DISLODGE HER

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FREYA SAT UNDER THE STAIRS IN A SELF-IMPOSED SOLITARY CONFINEMENT

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THE KITCHEN CLEAN UNTIL I MAKE CHILLI LATER… THEN ALL BETS ARE OFF!

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THE FRONT GARDEN TO THE LEFT

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AND RIGHT!

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THE UTILITY AREA

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BACK GARDEN LEFT FRONT

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MIDDLE

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LEFT REAR

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MIDDLE REAR

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RIGHT REAR

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RIGHT VERY FRONT

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CONSERVATORY

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INDELICATE NUDE CHERUB

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CONSERVATORY FROM KITCHEN DOOR

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MY LITTLE BRO JASON FINALLY RECEIVING AFFECTION FROM ELLIE

THAT CONCLUDES THE TRIP, DON’T FORGET YOUR BOARDING PASS AS YOU LEAVE!


The point of this little trip is I don’t want you good and kind people to worry about me, I’m in a nice place with all my family around me, and though my children are further away, im still only an hour away from them. My dogs like it here, and now that I’ve handed my keys in to the old house, I can concentrate on building a new life for myself.

thanks to all of you kind wonderful people for caring about this sad bag of bones, much appreciated.

DALE ‘M’ XXX

FLASHBACK

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THIS NEST,

HIGH ON THE ENGLISH OAK,

OLDEST TREE IN THE SPINNEY,

THIS FEATHERED OLD BRANCH,

FESTOONED WITH LEAF,

LIKE A VILLAGE SUMMER FETE,

WITH BUNTING TO THE NINES,

THIS PLACE WHERE,

I NESTED LIKE A BUZZARD…

IS JUST A FLASHBACK.

 

THE HEIGHTS FELLED WITH DISEASE,

AND THEN BY THE CHAINSAW…

THIS PLACE ONLY EXISTS IN MY MIND.

HERE IT SITS STILL MAJESTIC, STILL MINE,

AND I CAN ENVISAGE THE VISTA…

WHICH ONLY BUZZARDS  SEE NOW .

 

ALL THE PLACES OF WONDER,

ALL THE WONDERFUL PLACES,

ARE GONE IN THE REAL WORLD,

BUT IN MY MIND THEY REMAIN,

VIRTUALLY,

THE SAME.

 

THE PLACES AND PEOPLE,

WHO POPULATED MY LOVE…

HAVE BEEN THINNED,

BY AN OVER ZEALOUS GARDENER

AND THE SOIL BECOMES SO HARD-BAKED,

I FIND IT DIFFICULT TO CULTIVATE.

ANEW.

 

DALE ‘M’

SOMNAMBULISM

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sleepwalked into my mother’s bedroom to turn her telly off, and when she spoke to me, i said what are you doing in my bed? Haven’t done that for fifteen years! Last time was at Scunthorpe, i tried to walk out of the front door of the hotel onto the main road in just my jogging bottoms… in January!

DALE ‘M’

DONE

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MY THIRTY-TWO YEARS IN CHESHIRE IS OVER. MY HOUSE KEYS ARE RETURNED AND I HAVE SAID GOODBYE TO ALL THAT! LIKE ROBERT GRAVES IT TOOK TRAUMA TO EXORCISE ME FROM THE PLACE, AND NOW TO LOOK FORWARD… WITH MARIE BY MY SIDE, NOT SPEAKING, UNFORTUNATELY, BUT I’VE BEEN RE-ASSURED THAT HER SILENCE IS A GOOD THING, SHE DOESN’T FEEL THE NEED TO INTERVENE… A WORD OF ENCOURAGEMENT WOULD BE NICE, THOUGH!

TOMORROW, I START AFRESH. START PAINTING, IF I AM FIT ENOUGH TO MOVE, MY BODY IS ACHING IN EVERY WHICH WAY, START MAKING NEW PLANS.

I HAVE SO MANY PEOPLE ROOTING FOR ME HOW CAN I FAIL?

I WILL FIND A WAY… TRUST ME.

DALE ‘M’

ALL OUR YESTERDAYS

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JUST FOUND MY SCRAPBOOK! THIS IS A PICTURE OF THE CHUTE I DESIGNED BEING USED ON THE SIDE OF LICHFIELD CATHEDRAL… THIS IS MY PROUDEST MOMENT!

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CLIP FROM ARTSOC DAILY BULLETIN FROM KEELE UNIVERSITY, TO COMMEMORATE MY POEM COMING 2ND IN A POETRY COMPETITION.

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ME RUNNING A WRITER’S WORKSHOP FOR THE UNEMPLOYED IN THE 1990’S

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acting credit in The Electrician’s Daughter by Keith Mellor

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Programme I designed for the play Serious Game of Soldiers by Mark Bickerton.

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I wrote the copy for this article the girl pictured wasn’t in the cast for the eventual production, her part was played by Posy Miller, who  tragically died only a few years later.

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My claim to fame, named in the Actor’s bible, THE STAGE.

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Coronation Street star, Nigel Pivarro, auditioning for the role I eventually got cast in for A serious Game Of Soldiers.

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Programme from my only venture in to street theatre. Not the happiest experience… I like the audience further away…

Oh well, I’ve had a bit of a life.

Dale ‘M’